Outgrowing My Own Book

Two and a half years ago, I signed a book contract. A year ago, I turned in the manuscript. This week, my editor sent it back for review before it moves into production.

I expected to proofread it. Instead, I found myself meeting a version of myself that no longer quite exists.

I’m writing this from my daughter’s volleyball camp, manuscript pages spread across the adjoining cafeteria table. This is where the work happens.

Not at a beautiful desk. Not in a carefully styled studio.

The real work happens in stolen hours between school pickup and dinner, while waiting in parking lots, in the quiet stretches that rarely look important to anyone else.

When I first wrote the manuscript, I believed I was writing a book about little tokens of appreciation.

Since then, something has become much clearer. The tokens were never the destination. They were the invitation.

The conversations they create, the moments of recognition, the permission they quietly offer to step outside our roles and meet each other as people.

That’s the work.

Somewhere along the way, I also installed the Ripple Station outside my house. Thousands of tokens have passed through it. Hundreds of conversations have unfolded that weren’t in the manuscript because they hadn’t happened yet.

The work kept growing after I turned the manuscript in.

As it should.

For a moment, I wondered if something had gone wrong. Shouldn’t the manuscript still represent me? Then I realized something I hadn’t considered before. If I’m still doing the work, I should expect to outgrow what I wrote a year ago.

That’s not a flaw.

It’s evidence that the practice is still alive. I don’t want to become someone who simply repeats what I already know.

I hope every book, every gathering, every conversation leaves me just different enough that the next thing I create couldn’t have been written by the version of me that came before.

That feels like the real work.

Not producing more.

Becoming more.

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